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Independent Women Too Intimidating?

Independent women are too intimidating, they will never find a man. Who started this anyway? A man who was too afraid to deal with a strong, independent woman probably. We have been hearing this nonsense for ages. Yet strong, driven women continue to date, get engaged and marry men who deal with them just fine.

We must stop letting this nonsense make us try to make ourselves smaller, make us try to dull our shine. We were meant to stand out and make amazing impact on this world – any man that tries to make us feel otherwise is not the man we should be with anyway.

The right man will see your brilliance and do everything possible to support and encourage your continued elevation. Find that man and ignore the rest. A man that makes you feel you should be ashamed of wanting to constantly evolve would not survive the trip anyway!

Young Beautiful Lady Run On Sea Or Ocean Beach In Water Splash.

Not Everyone Will Support Your Next Level!

You are finally making all the changes you have talked about forever. Instead of just talking the talk, you are walking the walk. The weird thing is, not everyone seems to be happy for you. Sometimes you would be surprised who supports you evolving and who may try to ambush your forward motion. If you are feeling the backlash of your attempts to move to the next level, here are a few steps to help you out.

• Know when it’s time to let go. For some people, change is quite simply overrated. They are much more content staying in the same place with as little change to life as possible. Unfortunately, sometimes that person also feels threatened by your need to change. If you have already tried talking to someone to explain what your changes mean to you and requested their support to no avail, it may simply be time to accept they will never be there in the capacity you hoped for and let go.

• Negative Energy is just a waste of time and energy. You know the people I mean, they never seem to be happy about anything, anywhere, anytime. Ever. If you know someone is always super negative, you may want to try to limit some of your interactions with them to shorter time spans whenever possible. Sometimes there are people you simply can’t eliminate entirely because you work with them or perhaps they are family. But you can certainly try to keep your interactions to a minimum whenever possible. All that negative energy takes a toll and limits your energy which in turn impacts your progress in the things you are trying to do.

• Love from a distance. Some people mean well, they really do. But they don’t always understand that putting down your efforts to change or constantly trying to question why is not supportive. In their minds they may really think holding you back is in your best interest. While you may love your Aunt Jane, her constant attempts to convince you that women belong at home in the kitchen can become annoying. Loving someone does not mean you need to do so up close and personal on a regular basis. If you need to pull back for your own sanity, do so.

• Seasons change. We have all heard the sayings about people being in our lives for a season, a reason or a lifetime. As much as it may hurt, sometimes we just must accept that someone’s season is over. Let me give you an example, one friend I met a long time ago during a very dark period in my life seemed great, until I started to move on and make changes to get out of that darkness. Finally, I had to accept that she preferred me down or depressed because that’s how she always was. My changes were like a threat to the friendship, as they say negativity breeds negativity.

How do you typically handle people who don’t support your attempts to improve or get better? Have you ever let it make you give up entirely?

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Stop with the Negativity!

 

Some conversations drain you. Let’s just be honest, some people drain you. The negative, angry with the world thing can be too much and zap all your energy out. Recently after looking forward to an event, I lost all excitement in less than an hour, I kid you not. It was a barrage of one person after another complaining about everything. Like aren’t you happy about anything in your life?? Anything?

 

The thing some of us try to avoid is simply cutting people or situations out of our lives. But sometimes, it’s just what is best for us and our wellbeing. Now obviously there are some people and situations you must deal with, but you can definitely try to limit the time required to a minimum.

 

Now be really honest with yourself, are you the negative one in your group? The person who is never happy about anything? You may be and not even realize it. Think about your recent interactions with other people and the things you contributed to the conversation. Was any of it positive and upbeat? Or looking back did it just seem like frustration and complaints about everything?

 

Even if you are the culprit, you can change that. Starting now. Start looking at the things in your life that you have gratitude about. I don’t care how small it may seem. Feeling frustrated about someone giving you attitude at work? Remember you have a job while others are trying hard to find one. Annoyed your husband left the bathroom in disarray yet again? There are widows and divorcees wishing for those moments again. You get the idea. For every negative thought, try to find a positive – even if its just the cup of coffee you are going to go have while you reset your thoughts!

 

What steps can you do today to make sure you are not the person others dread interacting with?

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YoungBoy

Ok I admit, I didn’t even know who YoungBoy was prior to all the shenanigans when the story broke about his girlfriend. If you have been missing out on your social media updates, the feeds were full of updates regarding him allegedly forcing his girlfriend to sleep in a hotel lobby while he entertained other women in his hotel room. Of course, someone took pictures of her and posted them online, but she further fueled the fire by making videos trying to say everyone was blowing it out of proportion. Later more photos surfaced of him taking her shopping to make it up to her.

Everyone is in a tizzy about this, but lets look at it realistically.

• First, she is only 17 so perhaps she just does not have the maturity yet to fully know her worth. Let’s be honest, there are grown women who have accepted some of the same treatment if not more for years.

• We are not in their relationship, perhaps they had a clear understanding from the very beginning that there would be some type of open door policy.

• In her mind, this may be all she thinks she deserves. Or worse, she may see it as a sign of someone who really loves her.

Now on some grown woman ish, lets be brutally honest. How many of us know grown women who accept being disrespected on the regular?? This is not some weird thing that only happens when a man is a celebrity. We have all been there – perhaps not to this degree – but we were probably fortunate enough to have friends, family or dang strangers ready to shake some sense into us.

In that light, perhaps instead of bashing her, we should pray for her. Hopefully someone close to her can be there for her when she really concludes she deserves better. But as women, we have got to stop bashing and start supporting and guiding the younger generation into the type of women they truly have the capability to be.

Women Doing it for Themselves! (Part 2)

It is imperative that women support and encourage other women in this thing we call life. In that realm, nothing motivates us better than watching another sister take that leap and make it! As promised, this is part two of the three part series on women leaping with both feet to go after their dreams.

This is Ty’Rasha Johnson an Amazing Stylist and Co-owner of EnviedHair LLC specializing in Luxury Hair Extensions.

Tyrasha

 

At the start of her career Ty’Rasha worked for a well known salon as she entered into the world of beauty. While that company offered amazing educational opportunities she found her creativity stifled by the restrictions and limitations of the company.

Ready to step outside of that box she decided to venture out on her own and be her own boss. That decision not only catapulted her career as a stylist but it also forged a bond with the woman that would ultimately become her partner in the launch of EnviedHair LLC.

Looking back, Ty’Rasha considers her friends and family as her strongest support team in both ventures. In addition to being one of her strongest supporters, her boyfriend also serves as her sounding board, encouraging her to bounce ideas off him for honest feedback. He balances her out and helps her maintain tunnel vision.

Education is imperative to launch a career as a stylist. Starting a company as a supplier of quality hair extensions is another ball game entirely. There was no one to hold her hand and guide her. It was simply lots of trial and error. Research, buying and testing products before she would ever dream of offering it to her clients.

When asked what one word she would say described her, Ty’Rasha knew the answer Immediately: Unique! It’s the same word she has used since she was little. Never one to fit just one mold she can mesh with all settings.

Ty’Rasha’s Empowerment Quote? ‘God will not put more on me than I can bear’

That quote provided the necessary strength when obstacles started to make her question her ability to succeed. In addition, she is a strong believer in starting each day off with worship music. It’s a consistent reminder to stay focused and motivated.

Ty’Rasha’s advice to women afraid to take the leap to go after their dreams is very clear:

  • Stop shortchanging yourself!
  • It is a breath of fresh air watching your vision manifest.
  • Live the life you should be living by walking in your truth!

Stay connected with Ty’Rasha and catch the latest deals the company has to offer at the links below:

http://instagram.com/tyrasha

http://instagram.com/enviedhairllc

See Also: Women Doing it for Themselves! (Part 1)

Women Doing it for Themselves! (Part 1)

Sometimes as women I don’t think we really know just how strong and amazing we really are. So in that realm of thinking I am launching a new series to take a look at a few women who are each amazing in their own individual and unique way, women who have taken a leap and stepped out of the box society sometimes traps us in. Each of these women have trusted in their dream enough to stop dreaming and start doing!

Meet Robyn Richardson of Richardson & Ross Beauty which specializes in makeup applications for weddings, proms and special events.

Robyn

 

Robyn recalls an interest in the world of makeup and the magic it entails as far back as her childhood after watching her mother seem to transform herself with each application.

As her interest grew she taught herself more and more through practice and online videos. That attention to detail would soon start a word of mouth awareness among her college peers contacting her for her talents. That alone gave her the inspiration to launch out into business for herself.

Robyn considers her parents as the first tier of her support team back then. As she notes they would ‘gas her up’ to believe she could achieve anything right from the beginning and even more so once they really saw her work. Now she also has her husband who not only believes in her vision but invests in the dream as needed.

After 11 years in the business she joined forces with her partner to form Richardson and Ross Beauty a year ago. As a team the company is gaining recognition for the quality of their work and customer satisfaction.

When asked what one word she would say described her, Robyn’s answer was simple: Dynamic! I couldn’t agree more.

Robyn’s advice to other women ready to pursue their dreams is pretty straight forward:

  • Stay focused on your goal.
  • Keep personal feelings out of business.
  • Sick to your beliefs.
  • Avoid negativity.

Robyn’s Empowerment Song? ‘Happy Feelings’ by Frankie Beverly and Maze

Currently the company is gearing up for holiday and prom business. Later they do plan to add training classes for skincare to their customer base. Contact them or check their services here:

http://Facebook.com/RichRossBeauty

 

See Also: Women Doing it for Themselves! (Part 2)

Encouraging or Hating your Sisters

As women, why do we walk by each other most often without a word, smile or simple hello? We spend way too much time putting others down and practically relishing in someone’s sorrows instead of celebrating their success.

Let’s try something new, call it an experiment perhaps. For the next few days make it a point to say a kind word, compliment someone or congratulate them on something, no matter how small. Smile or acknowledge others in the course of your day. Later, think about how you feel. Did it help or hurt you to go out of your way to encourage your sister? Has it impacted your life in some way? I would love to hear about it!