Some conversations drain you. Let’s just be honest, some people drain you. The negative, angry with the world thing can be too much and zap all your energy out. Recently after looking forward to an event, I lost all excitement in less than an hour, I kid you not. It was a barrage of one person after another complaining about everything. Like aren’t you happy about anything in your life?? Anything?
The thing some of us try to avoid is simply cutting people or situations out of our lives. But sometimes, it’s just what is best for us and our wellbeing. Now obviously there are some people and situations you must deal with, but you can definitely try to limit the time required to a minimum.
Now be really honest with yourself, are you the negative one in your group? The person who is never happy about anything? You may be and not even realize it. Think about your recent interactions with other people and the things you contributed to the conversation. Was any of it positive and upbeat? Or looking back did it just seem like frustration and complaints about everything?
Even if you are the culprit, you can change that. Starting now. Start looking at the things in your life that you have gratitude about. I don’t care how small it may seem. Feeling frustrated about someone giving you attitude at work? Remember you have a job while others are trying hard to find one. Annoyed your husband left the bathroom in disarray yet again? There are widows and divorcees wishing for those moments again. You get the idea. For every negative thought, try to find a positive – even if its just the cup of coffee you are going to go have while you reset your thoughts!
What steps can you do today to make sure you are not the person others dread interacting with?
Sometimes as women I don’t think we really know just how strong and amazing we really are. So in that realm of thinking I am launching a new series to take a look at a few women who are each amazing in their own individual and unique way, women who have taken a leap and stepped out of the box society sometimes traps us in. Each of these women have trusted in their dream enough to stop dreaming and start doing!
Meet Robyn Richardson of Richardson & Ross Beauty which specializes in makeup applications for weddings, proms and special events.
Robyn recalls an interest in the world of makeup and the magic it entails as far back as her childhood after watching her mother seem to transform herself with each application.
As her interest grew she taught herself more and more through practice and online videos. That attention to detail would soon start a word of mouth awareness among her college peers contacting her for her talents. That alone gave her the inspiration to launch out into business for herself.
Robyn considers her parents as the first tier of her support team back then. As she notes they would ‘gas her up’ to believe she could achieve anything right from the beginning and even more so once they really saw her work. Now she also has her husband who not only believes in her vision but invests in the dream as needed.
After 11 years in the business she joined forces with her partner to form Richardson and Ross Beauty a year ago. As a team the company is gaining recognition for the quality of their work and customer satisfaction.
When asked what one word she would say described her, Robyn’s answer was simple: Dynamic! I couldn’t agree more.
Robyn’s advice to other women ready to pursue their dreams is pretty straight forward:
- Stay focused on your goal.
- Keep personal feelings out of business.
- Sick to your beliefs.
- Avoid negativity.
Robyn’s Empowerment Song? ‘Happy Feelings’ by Frankie Beverly and Maze
Currently the company is gearing up for holiday and prom business. Later they do plan to add training classes for skincare to their customer base. Contact them or check their services here:
See Also: Women Doing it for Themselves! (Part 2)
Quite simply, I have to accept something about myself. I have very little tolerance for people who complain all the time, always negative, don’t seem to be happy with one thing in their life…and yet, they are doing nothing about it.
They hate their jobs, kids are out of control, relationships are bad or nonexistent. Yet they are not doing anything about it?! If you are not doing anything to change it, why complain about it? Really?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m the Queen of Stressing. Life has kicked me down more times than I can count. Things have made me devastated, cry or feel as if I’m at my wits end. But despite that, I still try to figure out what I’m going to do. Its called getting up, dusting yourself off and figuring out your next move. I am always trying to figure out new ways to challenge myself, improve things in my life. Sitting around complaining without trying to figure out a plan will solve nothing. All that energy is better channeled in figuring out a game plan.