We have all heard the saying that real queens fix each other’s crowns. Yep, it’s a great hashtag – makes a pretty good meme as well. But how many of us can really say that’s what we do day in and day out? While I would like to believe we all start out with the best intentions, we fall short, myself included. But let’s think about it, if we all looked in the mirror and truly chose to try to support, encourage and love on other women every day what an impact that could really make? Let’s just look at a few ways we can fix another woman’s crown starting now:
• Stop Sipping Tea – In other words, don’t gossip about another woman behind her back, even if all you do is listen and laugh you are still complicit. If you are in the company of others putting someone down, first try to change the subject, if that does not work perhaps you should remove yourself. Just as you would not like finding out a so-called friend was bad mouthing you behind your back, they would be just as bothered by that behavior from you.
• Set the Foundation – Make sure that another woman knows who you are and that she can count on you, I mean really count on you. If you say you will do something, you do it. If you say you will be somewhere, you will be there with bells on. Real friends are quite often the one person you have that you can talk to about everything: the guy that just dumped you, the promotion you didn’t get, the financial problems you are experiencing. When times are hard a woman wants someone she can count on, not someone who is only there when it suits them.
• Honor Code – Tell them the truth, do not lie to them and set them up to get really hurt in the long run! If she is falling for a guy and telling you all the warning signs she see’s do not lie to her and try to convince her those signs aren’t real! It’s better to be there for her and tell her the truth now than watch her get cheated on, abused or taken advantage of in the long run. The same goes for when she is wrong about something. You know how it is, they are telling us their side of an argument and instead of telling her she needs to go back and apologize we encourage her to stay on the wrong track!
• Encourage, Love & Support – There is enough room for all of us to succeed: at life, love, careers whatever it is we want to do. Don’t ever let jealousy or envy fester in your heart. Yeah, we all may feel it a time or two, but acknowledge it and let go of it. Your time will come. Encourage another woman to go after everything she deserves, support her when she stumbles and love her through it all. If she is a good friend, she will do the same for you as you try to reach your goals in life. Yes, we all like to say we don’t need anyone, we can do it on our own. But think about how much joy there is in doing it together, cheering each other in the process!
What other ways can you help fix another woman’s crown? I would love to hear your thoughts!