Needy, clingy women are a major turnoff to a powerful man with drive. Why? Simply put, focused men trying to achieve certain goals in life do not have time to reassure you every minute of every day that you are in their thoughts.
What is your purpose? What are your goals, dreams and aspirations? If you are an independent woman with a mind of your own, one who is driven to pursue your own goals, you simply won’t have time to focus on what he is doing hour after hour throughout the day.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not in any way saying a man should not make you a priority in his life. However, he should not have to stress about the attitude you will have if he is not checking in with you every moment. The last thing a man needs at the end of a long stressful day is his woman giving him even more grief and stress. Your goal should always be one that empowers him, uplifts him and makes him feel safe from the struggles of the world. In other words, you are the one person that he knows will always have his back. The person he can talk to about anything without fear of judgment.
Think of it this way. When was the last time you were doing something that kept you extremely focused or busy? Perhaps it was a major deadline at work or a party you were in the middle of planning. Maybe you spent the day with a good friend you had not seen in awhile. During those times, it’s quite easy to lose track of time. When that happens you may only talk to the man in your life once or twice all day. But you don’t freak out about it because you know the reason. You were busy, he was busy. How would you feel if he automatically accused you of doing something wrong when you were missing in action? Or tried to insinuate that he simply was not important to you? Well just like you would not appreciate that, neither does he.
As a woman pursuing her goals you will attract men with like minded ambitions. Part of that reason is that he knows that combined drive will ultimately make you both a force to be reckoned with as a strong, powerful couple on the rise. It also lets him know that he does not have to stress about checking in every five seconds to reassure you because just like he is focused, so are you.
If you know you have a tendency to be that needy clingy woman, try something different. When you start to feel that need arising in you to check in with him for the millionth time in an hour, focus on something else. Preferably something that balances and evolves you as a woman. Take out your goal list, update some things. Focus on some of the short term steps to achieving those long term items. Not only does it give him time to do the things he has to do, it gives you time to focus on you. When you stay busy on individual goals, friendships and interests you spend less time nagging and more time blooming into someone he will find even more attractive and interesting.