Why are we so often our own worst enemies? As women we are quite often the hardest on ourselves. We let our insecurities get in the way of who we are and what we are capable of. Most people who know me have a perception of someone confident and self-assured. What people do not realize is that is a constant work in progress, something I struggle with daily. I’m constantly comparing myself, evaluating and trying to measure up.

Just recently I had to stop and take a long hard look at some things. Specifically I found myself comparing myself to the women before me in my current relationship. Simply because I know I’m nothing like those women. Instead of taking that at face value and moving forward, I start to compare and contrast. Why? Because I am who I am I guess. After wasting unnecessary time thinking about this, I had to face facts. I may not be like anyone else, but that’s what makes me completely unique and one of a kind. Being different from the women before me is probably a very good thing, after all they are in the past now for a reason.

I say all of this to say this, if you are letting your insecurities get in the way of any of the relationships in your life, you are not alone. But you do need to stop immediately. You are one of a kind, specially designed by God to be exactly who and what you are. Do not ever compare yourself to others, simply shine in the light of your unique self and let others enjoy the ambience of your true radiance.