Archive | September 2013

No Sick Days Allowed

As women we rarely slow down, much less stop for illness, pain or a bad day. We are mothers, significant others, sisters and overall caregivers. Our job never ends. We may punch out at the end of the day only to start our other job when we get home.

While our jobs may offer sick days, we rarely use them unless we are using them to care for someone else. When it comes to health and fitness, our first thought is that we just don’t have time. But let’s be honest with ourselves. If we can’t take 30 mins to an hour out of a day to work out how can we spare weeks or days when our body starts to shut down? If we ignore the signs our body and spirit gives us, we are only hurting ourselves. At some point it is crucial to stop and evaluate what we need for our own well being. If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t take care of anyone else.

Zero Tolerance

Quite simply, I have to accept something about myself. I have very little tolerance for people who complain all the time, always negative, don’t seem to be happy with one thing in their life…and yet, they are doing nothing about it.

They hate their jobs, kids are out of control, relationships are bad or nonexistent. Yet they are not doing anything about it?! If you are not doing anything to change it, why complain about it? Really?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m the Queen of Stressing. Life has kicked me down more times than I can count. Things have made me devastated, cry or feel as if I’m at my wits end. But despite that, I still try to figure out what I’m going to do. Its called getting up, dusting yourself off and figuring out your next move. I am always trying to figure out new ways to challenge myself, improve things in my life. Sitting around complaining without trying to figure out a plan will solve nothing. All that energy is better channeled in figuring out a game plan.

Sexy over 40

Reading the latest issue of Cosmopolitan with Jennifer Lopez on the cover. I can’t help but be motivated. The woman is over 40 and clearly doing her thing. She is completely in shape, confident and sure of who she is. Sometimes we just need reminders that’s its never too late to achieve the body confidence we dream of if we are just willing to put in the work!


Who is taking care of you?

Every once in awhile your body sends a message out to you loud and clear. It’s time to take better care of yourself; mind, body and soul. Are you paying attention?

You are pursing dreams, going after it all. I get it! But if you don’t take care of the foundation, the rest won’t even matter. If your child is sick, everything stops and you focus on taking care of them. Who is taking care of you?

Achieving your goals takes work, determination and the strength to keep pushing forward. To ensure you are up for the challenge, take time to evaluate how you take care of yourself. Now step up your game. What are you putting into your body? How often are you getting exercise or taking mental breaks? Think about it.


Encouraging or Hating your Sisters

As women, why do we walk by each other most often without a word, smile or simple hello? We spend way too much time putting others down and practically relishing in someone’s sorrows instead of celebrating their success.

Let’s try something new, call it an experiment perhaps. For the next few days make it a point to say a kind word, compliment someone or congratulate them on something, no matter how small. Smile or acknowledge others in the course of your day. Later, think about how you feel. Did it help or hurt you to go out of your way to encourage your sister? Has it impacted your life in some way? I would love to hear about it!

Selling Yourself Short

How many times do you start the conversation off by putting yourself down? Telling someone new everything that you perceive to be wrong with you? Or perhaps you spend a lot of time explaining what went wrong in all your past relationships. Either way, it’s a bad start. The idea of dating, whether you like it or not, is about selling yourself. Showing someone how great you are and why they should be dying to get to know more about you. Wasting a lot of time degrading yourself completely defeats the ultimate goal. Don’t ever sell yourself short. If you have things about yourself that you don’t like, fix it! But don’t dwell on it or let it keep you from enjoying life!

Give Your Ex a Thank You!

You read it correctly, I really asked you to tell your ex Thank You. Call them up, send them a text, drop an email, thank them for treating you poorly, cheating, not being honest etc. Sound crazy? Not really. Think about it, you went through hell with that person, perhaps you dated a woman who never had time for you, preferred hanging in the club to taking care of her man. Or perhaps you are a woman who had to deal with someone who wanted to hang with his boys or lay on your couch all day, failing to give you the time or attention you needed. Thank them anyway.

Thank them for teaching you what you will not allow, for teaching you how you want and deserve to be treated. Of course the key is that you have learned from the experience and you are making changes in the type of people you allow in your life next time. Besides, having experienced someone who treats you poorly will increase your appreciation for someone who treats you well and prevent you from taking them for granted.

You Can Make a Difference

As a little girl I wanted to stop and help everyone I saw on the side of the road, give them a ride, bring them food or clothes… something. Of course I had a mother who was a lot more interested in keeping me safe than allowing this idea to develop. Especially my insistence that I would buy a van when I grew up so that I could drive them wherever they were trying to go. Of course at that time I didn’t know how much I would later hate driving or be directionally challenged getting anywhere.

As a child we envision being able to help everyone in some way, we think we can change the world. Somewhere along the way, we lose our childish ideas and start to get swamped by our day to day lives. Time, responsibilities and life get in the way. We decide that we can’t change the world all alone. Perhaps we can’t, but we can do something. There is no excuse for refusing to do anything to help others, one at a time. We are blessed with so much we are practically obligated to give back where we can. It only takes a moment to do something, whether you volunteer your time feeding the homeless once a month or take on helping abused or neglected children, it matters. It may not impact the world as a whole, but it impacts the life of that one person more than you may ever know.

Forgetting the Naysayers

For most of my life I can recall having a long list of things I wanted to do in both my business and personal life. Each time I would start to work on strategies and plans, making my lists and setting my organizer for success. But I always had this bad habit of saying too much to people I trusted about all the things I wanted to do. Inevitably someone would tell me why I shouldn’t do something; mostly it was why I should not do all the something’s I wanted to do.

There is one bit of advice that has stuck in my head for years. It was quite simply that my desire to try to do so many things at once would mean they would all fail. Basically because I would be spreading myself too thin and none of these things would be getting 100% of my focus. Based on that advice, a lot of things were put on the back burner, allowing one endeavor at a time to be the primary focus.

Today, I had an epiphany. How can anyone know what I can or can’t do, if I don’t know? It’s very easy to tell someone that trying to do something won’t work, if it doesn’t work for you. However, you have no idea what that person is made of or what their true potential is. For me, I always do better when I’m busy, focused on more than one thing. My mind is always going, thinking of things I need to be doing, things that need my attention. So starting now, it’s about forgetting what ‘everybody’ says and doing what I feel. I may make mistakes along the way, but I will learn from them and keep on pushing. In the end, when I am gone, I want to be remembered for a long list of accomplishments and deeds that tell you who I was, not just one thing I did well.

Blog Challenge

Feeling the need to start my first Blog Challenge just to really get this blog off the ground and increase my followers. Rules are simple, min of 1 blog per day for 30 days starting 9/9/13 and ending Oct. 8th (Feel free to join me and/or share this)