Men will normally tell you exactly what they want up front. The problem will sometimes be truly hearing what they say and believing it. Women have a tendency to hear what they want to hear or simply make their own conclusions about what a man really means.
If a man says he is not interested in a relationship, that he is only interested in someone to hang out with, have fun or fulfill his physical needs, then that is exactly what he wants right now.
Too often, women take that to mean that he only feels that way because he had not met her before, that she can change his mind. Going into a situation believing you can change a man to be what or who you need is the first step to disappointment later. Basically it’s being dishonest. She is being dishonest with herself if she convinces herself that she can accept what he is offering when it’s not what she wants. She is being honest with him by telling him she is ok with just being friends with benefits, no strings attached.
A man who wants to be in a relationship and is ready to put in the effort to make one work, will be upfront about his intentions. There will be no need to try to figure him out or second guess everything he says. He will be upfront, stepping to you with the purpose of a man on a mission to get what he wants.
It’s really quite simple, before getting into a committed relationship or a friend’s with benefits arrangement, both parties need to sit down and talk in an open and honest forum to determine what they both want and need. If someone’s ultimate needs are not being met, neither party will be satisfied in the long run.