Don’t Close Your Eyes

*I recieved a free advance copy of the book in return for an honest review.

The story is an enjoyable romance/mystery book with some interesting twists. The main character starts to remember bits and pieces of something traumatic from her childhood that shows her that the people closest to her have been lying all her life. Like most books of this genre there is the handsome irresistible leading man (who just happens to be single) with lots of emotional baggage of his own.

The intrigue is decent. However, there are quite a few supporting characters sprinkled in that sometimes leave you trying to recall who is who. There are also some grammatical errors that will hopefully be corrected before the book hits the shelves. All in all, it is a good light story that you can whip right through on a rainy day.

Independent Women Too Intimidating?

Independent women are too intimidating, they will never find a man. Who started this anyway? A man who was too afraid to deal with a strong, independent woman probably. We have been hearing this nonsense for ages. Yet strong, driven women continue to date, get engaged and marry men who deal with them just fine.

We must stop letting this nonsense make us try to make ourselves smaller, make us try to dull our shine. We were meant to stand out and make amazing impact on this world – any man that tries to make us feel otherwise is not the man we should be with anyway.

The right man will see your brilliance and do everything possible to support and encourage your continued elevation. Find that man and ignore the rest. A man that makes you feel you should be ashamed of wanting to constantly evolve would not survive the trip anyway!

Young Beautiful Lady Run On Sea Or Ocean Beach In Water Splash.

Why You? Why Not You?

Blogging

Lately I have found myself spending a lot of time explaining the blogging process to others and one thing just keeps coming up, a lack of confidence. There are so many people afraid to do something based on their own fears of inadequacy. Why would anyone read my work? Who am I to try to tell anyone how to do anything? Why me? Well, Why Not You??

See, here’s the thing – If you don’t believe in yourself; of course, it is hard to imagine anyone else doing it! But I can’t say this enough. Everyone has a story to tell. You may not be an expert in your field, but you are an expert in being you! Stop focusing so much time on what other people will think of you giving advice on anything and just do it. The more you write, the more your knowledge increases and eventually your experience as an expert of your own written thought process.

Think of it this way, what are you an expert at? You are a single mom? Of course, you are not the only single mom in the world, but you are the only single mom of your children. Based on that information you will have unique stories, challenges and triumphs that apply specifically to you and the children you are raising. Believe it or not, there are brand new single moms out there who could use that information and insight as they try to put aside their own fears of being a bad parent. Your stories can assure them they are doing their best or help them through the mistakes we have all made at some point!

So again, why you? Because you are uniquely made and the only person to give insight into your personal experiences! So, what are you waiting for??

Not Everyone Will Support Your Next Level!

You are finally making all the changes you have talked about forever. Instead of just talking the talk, you are walking the walk. The weird thing is, not everyone seems to be happy for you. Sometimes you would be surprised who supports you evolving and who may try to ambush your forward motion. If you are feeling the backlash of your attempts to move to the next level, here are a few steps to help you out.

• Know when it’s time to let go. For some people, change is quite simply overrated. They are much more content staying in the same place with as little change to life as possible. Unfortunately, sometimes that person also feels threatened by your need to change. If you have already tried talking to someone to explain what your changes mean to you and requested their support to no avail, it may simply be time to accept they will never be there in the capacity you hoped for and let go.

• Negative Energy is just a waste of time and energy. You know the people I mean, they never seem to be happy about anything, anywhere, anytime. Ever. If you know someone is always super negative, you may want to try to limit some of your interactions with them to shorter time spans whenever possible. Sometimes there are people you simply can’t eliminate entirely because you work with them or perhaps they are family. But you can certainly try to keep your interactions to a minimum whenever possible. All that negative energy takes a toll and limits your energy which in turn impacts your progress in the things you are trying to do.

• Love from a distance. Some people mean well, they really do. But they don’t always understand that putting down your efforts to change or constantly trying to question why is not supportive. In their minds they may really think holding you back is in your best interest. While you may love your Aunt Jane, her constant attempts to convince you that women belong at home in the kitchen can become annoying. Loving someone does not mean you need to do so up close and personal on a regular basis. If you need to pull back for your own sanity, do so.

• Seasons change. We have all heard the sayings about people being in our lives for a season, a reason or a lifetime. As much as it may hurt, sometimes we just must accept that someone’s season is over. Let me give you an example, one friend I met a long time ago during a very dark period in my life seemed great, until I started to move on and make changes to get out of that darkness. Finally, I had to accept that she preferred me down or depressed because that’s how she always was. My changes were like a threat to the friendship, as they say negativity breeds negativity.

How do you typically handle people who don’t support your attempts to improve or get better? Have you ever let it make you give up entirely?

Take a Rest Recreation Carefree Concept

The Royal Wedding

LOS ANGELES - JAN 19:  Meghan Markle at the NBC TCA Winter 2014

As the Royal Wedding draws near, there is a lot of media frenzy around the bride’s estranged family. Although it has been noted in several venues that Meghan has not spoken to several of the relatives on her fathers side in several years, much less spent any time with them, they keep speaking out. Of course, all the interviews and social media outreach they have done has been negative and disparaging against Meghan.

Now the question is, what could they possibly have to say, what insight could they possibly really give about someone that they have not spoken to or seen in years?? Of course, in this instance it really could just be people trying very hard to get their 15 minutes of fame. Or perhaps there is simply some jealousy there, because why should she have all this attention and fame? How dare she? What makes her so special?

Perhaps what they really need to realize and accept is Meghan put in the work to take her career exactly where she wanted to go prior to any relationship. There is no reason her extended family could not buckle down and pursue their own goals if they wanted to reach accomplishments in their field. As far as her relationship, she met someone and fell in love. Should she feel guilty because of his status or because of who he is? Should she not marry him and forgo happiness just to make them feel better about themselves? Of course not.

At the same time, they are trying really hard to make her look like a villain for not inviting them to her wedding. But let’s get real. Why on earth would you want people at your wedding that you have not spoken to in years, have no real relationship with and who drags your name through the mud at the first chance they get??

While most of us are not celebrities having weddings of this stature, the same principle applies to us. Your wedding is meant to be a special day for you and your significant other to celebrate your love and commitment with the people closest to you in life. You should not have to feel obligated to invite people simply to avoid them saying negative things about you or to appease what people think. What experience have you had with your wedding or those of others that included negative antics from family? How was it handled? Do you have any advice for Meghan as she launches into the next phase of her life as a new bride?

Smartass & Sass

Anyone who knows me knows; sarcasm is my second language. Heck, sometimes it’s my first! 😂 Due to that fact, I could not resist when I found out there was a subscription box for sarcasm lovers!

The original box gives you a variety of products that all apply to a different theme each month. Recently they expanded on that and added a sarcastic Tshirt box. Can’t decide which box you want? You don’t have to, you can opt for the ‘Big Box’ that includes the original box and the Tshirt in one box!

To give you an idea of the things you might recieve, I’m reviewing my last box below. This is what your typical box will look like:

The theme for this box was ‘That’s My Jam’ The first item is the dishcloth. Now, while the saying is cute, the texture is not really something I would use on a regular basis.

Now the Koozie on the other hand is just adorable and functional at the same time.

Almost all the boxes include some type of notepad or tablet and this one was no exception:

And what’s a pad without a pencil??

This cute little box is actually a planter that includes both the soil and seeds. So far I don’t have any growth just yet, so I guess I really can’t touch this! Corny, I know!

This box also includes this clever little spoon to make things a little interesting in the kitchen.

Now the cards are also a frequently included item. For people like me, who like the occasional paper correspondence in this mostly digital world it works.

This is probably my favorite item in the whole box. First of all I’m a major coffee addict so one with the bonus sarcastic quote is hitting the jackpot.

Of course if you opt for the shirt as well, you would have received this shirt with this box. Trust me when I say it is definitely a conversation starter when you go out in public wearing it!

Find the box interesting? Give it a try and see what you think. You can use my code below for a 15% discount while you are at it!

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Have you already tried it? Tell me your thoughts below!

Fab Fit Fun

Well I am now on my fourth box from Fabfitfun. If you are not aware of how it works, it is a seasonal box that arrives with full size samples of everything from makeup and skin care to bags and jewelry. Boxes are $49.99 per season or of course you can become a Select member by paying annually at $179.99

Now I went the seasonal route to see what all the hype was about. Like most subscription boxes there are some things you love and some – not so much. Put it this way, I’m still on the fence regarding continuing or canceling.

The items are full size as they promise. Unfortunately not everything will appeal to everyone. There have been things I loved initially but hated later. For example, one box had an amazing throw that I loved on sight. It was plush and beautiful and felt amazing. Unfortunately it shed everywhere on everything. And I do mean everything. I looked like a shedding cat had been in my lap and I don’t have a cat! I even tried washing it. It only got worse. Needless to say it got shoved in a closet. Then there was a necklace that I thought was gorgeous, I wore it once and it started changing colors.

Don’t get me wrong, there have also been things I love. My favorite mug so far has been a wonderful design from a collaboration they did with Ayesha Curry. It’s my go to every morning!

But I digress, getting back to the most recent box. It’s better than the previous boxes I’ve recieved so far. Now how do I judge that? There are fewer items in this one that I will be giving away than normal. 😂

The boxes do all have great design and packaging.

This one came with a handy massager, I’ll probably never use it but who knows. If anything it will just become junk in the closet.

Now the eye mask, I love. Not only is it an attractive design but it comes with a nice cooling packet that I can’t wait to try.

The lovely ridge filler will definitely be a give away since I get my nails done regularly. However it may be great for someone who does her own hands.

The lip colors are cute. However they don’t seem to last very long. Perhaps they are good as long as you are just staying in.

The reversible clutch was cute and I was looking forward to using it. Unfortunately my zipper was broken so that will end up being just junk unless I can figure out how to fix it.

This I love, it’s super cute. I’m a little scared to wear it because I don’t want it to change colors. However, I am going to give it a shot because it’s just too cute to pass up.

I’m a fan of lotion so this came in handy. It does have a great smell and a nice consistency so that’s a plus for me.

I love candles, so I was also happy about this. The fragrance is great as well so that’s a major plus.

This seems cute, have not tried it just yet but I’m willing to give it a try if it helps my lips.

All in all it was better than normal so for now I will give it at least one more try before making a decision one way or the other. Have you tried it? What was your experience?